In my quest to find out more about myself I thought I would take an enneagram test. I have been seeing quite a lot about these test online lately and I figured why not try it and see what a few quick questions would answer about me. The results were pretty shocking, here are my results below I will agree/disagree with what my results say.
Type 6: The Loyalist
Loyalists are responsible, trustworthy, and value loyalty to family, friends, groups, and causes. Their personalities range broadly from reserved and timid to outspoken and confrontative.
How to Get Along with Me
- Be direct and clear.
- Listen to me carefully.
- Don’t judge me for my anxiety.
- Work things through with me.
- Reassure me that everything is OK between us.
- Laugh and make jokes with me.
- Gently push me toward new experiences.
- Try not to overreact to my overreacting.
What I Like About Being a Six
- Being committed and faithful to family and friends.
- Being responsible and hardworking.
- Being compassionate toward others.
- Having intellect and wit.
- Being a nonconformist.
- Confronting danger bravely.
- Being direct and assertive.
What’s Hard About Being a Six
- The constant push and pull involved in trying to make up my mind.
- Procrastinating because of fear of failure; having little confidence in myself.
- Fearing being abandoned or taken advantage of.
- Exhausting myself by worrying and scanning for danger.
- Wishing I had a rule book at work so I could do everything right.
- Being too critical of myself when I haven’t lived up to my expectations.
Type 2: The Helper
Helpers are warm, concerned, nurturing, and sensitive to other people’s needs.
How to Get Along with Me
- Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific.
- Share fun times with me.
- Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus on yours.
- Let me know that I am important and special to you.
- Be gentle if you decide to criticize me.
- Reassure me that I am interesting to you.
- Reassure me often that you love me.
- Tell me I’m attractive and that you’re glad to be seen with me.
What I Like About Being a Two
- Being able to relate easily to people and to make friends.
- Knowing what people need and being able to make their lives better.
- Being generous, caring, and warm.
- Being sensitive to and perceptive about others’ feelings.
- Being enthusiastic and fun-loving, and having a good sense of humor.
What’s Hard About Being a Two
- Not being able to say no.
- Having low self-esteem.
- Feeling drained from overdoing for others.
- Not doing things I really like to do for myself for fear of being selfish.
- Criticizing myself for not feeling as loving as I think I should.
- Being upset that others don’t tune in to me as much as I tune in to them.
- Working so hard to be tactful and considerate that I suppress my real feelings.
Type 4: The Individualist
Individualists have sensitive feelings and are warm and perceptive.
How to Get Along with Me
- Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me.
- Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love and value myself.
- Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision.
- Though I don’t always want to be cheered up when I’m feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.
- Don’t tell me I’m too sensitive or that I’m overreacting!
What I Like About Being a Four
- My ability to find meaning in life and to experience feeling at a deep level.
- my ability to establish warm connections with people.
- Admiring what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life.
- My creativity, intuition, and sense of humor.
- Being unique and being seen as unique by others.
- Having aesthetic sensibilities.
- Being able to easily pick up the feelings of people around me.
What’s Hard About Being a Four
- Experiencing dark moods of emptiness and despair.
- Feelings of self-hatred and shame; believing I don’t deserve to be loved.
- Feeling guilty when I disappoint people.
- Feeling hurt or attacked when someone misunderstands me.
- Expecting too much from myself and life.
- Fearing being abandoned.
- Obsessing over resentments.
- Longing for what I don’t have.
The relate ability behind this is uncanny I am certainly a huge combination of each of these, I certainly have a fear of disappointing others, and it pains me when I do disappoint those around me. I also have a strong desire and need to feel appreciated and wanted. I do struggle from low self esteem, some days and months are better than others, and some days I feel better about myself. When I feel like I have upset someone close to me or I have hurt someone close to my, its almost a guarantee that my day is going to be shit. I will sit there and analyze and try and figure out what I can do to fix it or I will sit here and internalize it until I pretty much make myself sick thinking about what I have done. I can promise you if I have done something to hurt someone I love it probably hurts me way worse than anything I possibly could have done. I do not know that I will ever be able to change these things about my personality but I would certainly like to improve myself esteem, as well as stop being so hard on myself. I will be working in the coming weeks to see if there are thing that I can do and try to raise my self esteem which will make me more secure in all aspects of my life.
If you would like to take the same ennegram test here is the link!